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Almost Dorothy defends the right of all humans to fear rape regardless of gender or sexual orientation

Rape of the Sabine Women, Pietro da Cortona, 1627 - 1629.
Rape of the Sabine Women, Pietro da Cortona, 1627 – 1629.

Queerty reports that Trayvon Martin feared George Zimmerman “might be a rapist” (read full article here). This is what I think while heading back to Moscow with my bro and fugitive, Edward Snowden:

Rape is not a funny thing. Even if Zimmerman were not a potential “rapist” or a “creepy-ass cracker”, I would have probably made irrational decisions (like both Martin and Zimmerman may have the night of Martin’s death) to save my life (or to defend my life) if I was stalked by a guy (or girl) at night (or day) on my way home in my own neighborhood with only skittles and a can of ice tea to defend myself. It’s not a common experience to have a neighbor stalk me in my own neighborhood, so if someone were stalking me, I would definitely fear for my life and my brain would start calculating, even without me ‘thinking’, what my best options for escape and/or survival would be. All I know is that if I were stalked, I would freak out, but I probably would have run even though I may have the right to stand my ground, mostly because I’m a fourteen year old tranny and I don’t want my ass kicked. Ma probably would have run cause she’s forty and has flat feet and a fat ass.  If I were 17 and had muscle, maybe I would stand my ground like Martin did when he confronted his stalker.

Sidebar: Justice Department reports that 1 in 33 men have been raped. Read the full report here.

As far as calling Trayvon Martin homophobic because he may have thought Zimmerman was a ‘rapist’ is just another form of coded racism. The fact remains: people rape people. Straight men rape straight women, straight men, gay men and gay women. Gay men rape gay men, straight men, straight women and gay women. (You can continue with the other possibilities on your own but you get my point: people rape people.) We have the right, no matter what gender or sexual orientation, to fear rape or any other threat against our lives. Men get raped. It’s a fact and a dirty secret that people don’t like to talk about. And we should talk about rape just like we should talk about racism just like we should talk about gun violence just like I should talk.

(Oh, side comment: I just got solicited en route to Moscow while eating ice cream by a guy who shouted at me, “how much?” “Fuck you,” I shouted back. “Ok,” he said. Then I gave him the finger.)

Posted in Almost Dorothy, Amanda Bernstein, Characters, Family, The Mother, Themes

Ricky Martin Is Not Ray!

Mom refuses to accept that Ricky Martin is gay. Mom refuses to accept I’m gay. Mom refuses to accept she’s gay. The gays refuse to accept that mom is gay. The gays refuse to accept Ricky Martin is gay. Ricky refuses to accept he’s not gay. (That’s what mom says.) I’m so confused I don’t want to be gassey today. Mom is gassey today because she’s pissed because Ricky Martin is gay or is pretending to be gay. Mom drank four cups of coffee today. Amanda Bernstein refuses to accept that mom isn’t gay. Amanda Bernstein is gay. Amanda Bernstein doesn’t care if Ricky Martin is gay or if the gays are gay. Amanda Bernstein doesn’t care if the dog is gay. Amanda Bernstein is so annoyed today she called mom gay to her face. Mom created a new tee-shirt on Cafe Press that says “Ricky Martin Is Not Gay!” but when she got it in the mail it read “Ricky Martin Is Not Ray!” Thank God, mom said. I told you Ricky ain’t like that.